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Adam Whybray's avatar

Great melancholy blog post, that. I was wondering if you've ever watched 'The Stone Tape'? I suspect it's not very well known outside here in the UK.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eYZgSWlpvGk

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Luke T. Harrington's avatar

I haven’t watched it, but I am aware of it—actually learned of its existence while I was researching this piece, haha. I’ll have to check it out sometime.

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Adam Whybray's avatar

Neat! If you do, I hope you find it interesting!

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Lynda E. Rucker's avatar

Oh, I just loved everything about this so much.

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Luke T. Harrington's avatar

☺️ You have no idea what it means to me that my fave author is reading my work and enjoying it

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Wendy Varley's avatar

Great writing and great points. That’s very funny about the indelible birthdays in your calendar. Must be infuriating. Thank goodness I resisted the prompt to synch my contacts!

And very true about bereavements, too. I’ve been privately referring to it as Griefbook for a while now, as so many of my contemporaries are mourning parents - or partners - and they’re using Facebook to process grief. Which is fair enough and it can lead to some profound connections if you take the time. But the feeling of obligation to comment can feel similar to the birthday dilemma as the anniversaries of deaths roll by each year. It’s a conundrum!

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Hobo's avatar

Great read. Thanks so much.

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Brandon Hendrickson's avatar

Jeez wow. Again, thank you for helping us make sense of the humanity of these systems. (And, as an aside, helping me feel less incompetent that I can’t disentangle the mess of my calendars…)

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